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The Lindenhurst Memorial Library has several resources and services for new parents. Explore this page for more information as well as parenting books, community resources and upcoming programs.
Are you a new parent who cannot get to the Library? Sign up for our new Special Delivery service to receive books, DVD’s, magazines, music CD’s and Books on CD, etc. directly to your home.
There is no age limit to get a library card! Your little one can get a library card at any age.
Annual Community Baby Shower
The Lindenhurst Memorial Library hosts an annual Community Baby Shower each Spring!
If you are interested in participating please contact Justine Rivera at jrivera@lindenhurstlibrary.org
Join us on May 10th, 2024 from 10:00am-12:00pm in the Venetian Room. Walk ins are welcome!
Registration is required for the SCPD car seat inspection.
Parenting Collection
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The Couples' Pregnancy Guide
Practical strategies, checklists, and planning tools to help couples navigate the pregnancy, childbirth, and newborn stages together
Preparing for the birth of your child is a life-changing experience, but it doesn’t have to be an overwhelming one. Couples can tackle everything that needs to get done if they work together as a team, all while setting the foundation for a strong partnership that carries them through the next stage as first-time parents. The Couples' Pregnancy Guide offers supportive advice, strategies, and checklists couples need to create a plan that works for their unique relationship. There’s no script for how things will go in pregnancy, but you can get through it with confidence and optimism when you do it together.
The Couples' Pregnancy Guide features:
• A month-by-month breakdown of discussion-worthy topics, from prenatal screenings and parental leave to childcare options and birth plans
• Guidance on how to support your partner to improve communication, strengthen emotional attunement, and lay the groundwork for a strong parenting team
•Checklists and worksheets to share responsibilities and empower non-birthing partners, and brainstorm solutions when joint decisions are particularly tricky
•Practical advice for challenges like easing tight finances, moving past communication impasses, and advocating for yourself in medical settings -
Cooperative Co-Parenting for Secure Kids
Discover how attachment theory can help you better understand yourself and your ex, improve your co-parenting skills, and raise happy, emotionally secure kids!
If you're like most parents, you want--more than anything--for your child to feel safe, loved, and confident that their needs will be met. However, this can be difficult when you're sharing custody with an ex. Instead of working together, you may feel at war with one another, and in the end, nobody wins--especially your child. So, how can you ensure that you and your ex are on the same page when it comes to co-parenting?
With this unique and highly practical guide, you'll learn the science of attachment theory, and how to apply it to your co-parenting relationship. Secure attachment refers to the bond between a parent and young child, which gives that child a stable and secure basis from which to negotiate life going forward. A child with a secure base can weather the storms of trauma and life changes --such as those caused by divorce--much more easily than a child who doesn't. Co-parents who understand this principle have a significant advantage, because they can learn how to provide secure attachment for their child, even while no longer living under the same roof.
You'll learn the "principles of engagement" for successful co-parenting:
- Commitment: Create certainty in the midst of change by committing to show up and be present for your child, thereby creating trust and reducing anxiety.
- Collaboration: Work together, with a shared vision for co-parenting, to create win-win-wins for all.
- Clarity: Maintain clear, concise, calm, and timely communications, thereby minimizing misunderstandings and providing accountability.
- Consistency: Build consistent structures in both homes to create reliable and predictable environments.
- Connection: Co-parents stay present and mindful with their child to help them process their emotions and to build secure attachment.
- Community: Cultivate community and external support systems, thereby expanding the circle of love.
Co-parenting is often difficult, and sometimes it can feel like a battle. But it doesn't have to be this way. Using the insight and wisdom in this guide, you'll learn how to build a solid and supportive co-parenting team. And the real winner will be your kid!
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Enough about the Baby
An unapologetic guide to the first year of motherhood, Enough About the Baby is a newborn book for women who recognize the necessity of self-care--even if sometimes the rest of the world does not.
Superheroes don't have babies; real and imperfect non-superhumans do. When we come to terms with this, the result is a happier and less traumatizing start to motherhood. Becky Vieira, the mom behind the popular Instagram account @wittyotter, provides actionable advice for new parents on what to expect after pregnancy and how to successfully navigate the frustrations and challenges that come with having a baby. Vieira draws on her own experiences and interviews with moms and experts to get to the bottom of the toughest and most taboo topics--from managing nosey in-laws and an anxious partner to surviving the first postpartum poop and when to seek out treatment for postpartum depression. This book is filled with hacks, tips, and tricks that only the most seasoned--and enlightened--mom knows. (Ever hear of a condsicle, an ergonomic ice pack for a battered nether region?) Vieira reminds readers that motherhood shouldn't be martyrdom, and a new mom who puts her needs first often isn't selfish at all.
With its combination of practical advice and the signature humor that made Vieira a hit on Instagram, Enough About the Baby makes a perfect baby shower gift for first time moms. -
Love Your Kids Without Losing Yourself
Loving your kids isn't supposed to mean you completely disappear or get swallowed up by the demands of motherhood.
You want to be a great mother. But how do you care for yourself without neglecting your kids needs, feeling overwhelmed by guilt, or succumbing under the pressure to be perfect?
Dr. Morgan--a psychotherapist and relationship expert--has helped over 100,000 moms regain their sanity and prevent burnout through her popular courses, coaching, and social media wisdom. In her debut book, Love Your Kids Without Losing Yourself, she offers a proven step-by-step plan that any mom can follow. In this powerful book, she reveals how to
- rid yourself of mom-guilt for good,
- identify your needs and express them with confidence,
- create a self-care plan that goes beyond pedicures and bubble baths, and
- thrive as a woman after being on the back burner for too long.
Love Your Kids Without Losing Yourself is a must-read book for modern moms. You don't have to choose between self-abandonment or child-abandonment. You can love yourself and love your kids. Discover how to flourish as a mother, know exactly how to care for yourself in ways that actually make a difference, and finally feel joy in motherhood.
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Bite-Sized Parenting: Your Baby's First Year
The most essential, evidence-based advice for baby’s first year in an easily digestible and full-color illustrated format designed for today’s busy parents
Congratulations! You have a new baby. But what you don’t have is a lot of time to comb through the overwhelming amount of information on caring for that baby.
In Bite-Sized Parenting, Sharon Mazel, one of America’s most trusted parenting experts, presents the latest, most practical science-backed advice that new moms and dads need most, without judgment and in an engaging visual format.
Bite-Sized Parenting is designed to make parenting in the first year less complicated and stressful. Its month-by-month format and full-color illustrated infographics—nearly 100 in all—are filled with expert medical, behavioral, nutritional, and developmental details aimed at empowering parents to care for their little ones with calm and confidence.
Strapped for time? Spend a few minutes with the bite-sized overviews for targeted advice, tips, and strategies you can use right away. Want to dig deeper and learn more? Read the “A Closer Look” sections for an in-depth dive, with more nuance, guidance, and background on each must-know topic.
Each month, readers will learn:- Your baby “by the numbers”: expected ranges for your baby’s sleep times, feeding amounts, weight gain, and more
- Age- and stage-appropriate guidance on feeding and eating, naps and night-time sleep, baby care and playing, and more
- How to tackle common first-year challenges, including soothing a crying baby, recognizing hunger and sleep cues, teething and spitting up, starting solids and gagging, feeding and sleeping challenges, stranger anxiety, and more
- Expert advice for tummy time, reaching motor milestones like rolling over, sitting, and crawling, stimulating baby’s brain, boosting language development, and more
- Support for how you may be feeling in your baby’s first year—with reassurance that you’re not alone
The perfect gift (for yourself or someone else), Bite-Sized Parenting offers the key information new parents need, with warmth, support, and encouragement. -
The Yoga of Parenting
2023 National Parenting Product Award Winner
Bring the wisdom of yoga into your parenting journey.
Mom and yoga teacher Sarah Ezrin offers 34 practices to find more presence, patience, and acceptance—with your child and with yourself.
“I can say without a doubt that the most advanced yoga I’ve ever done is raising a child,” writes Sarah Ezrin. While many people think of yoga as poses on a mat, The Yoga of Parenting supports people in bringing the spiritual principles of yoga into their lives—particularly their families. Ezrin, a longtime yoga teacher, supports readers and practitioners in slowing down, becoming present with our children and ourselves, and acting with more compassion.
Each chapter highlights a yogic posture and theme and explores how it relates to parenting, including presence, boundaries, balance, and nonattachment. Chapters include prompts such as intention setting, breathwork, and journaling. Ezrin also features the stories and insights of a wide range of yoga practitioner parents whose experiences include single parenting, grandparenting, and passing on intergenerational yoga traditions. In addition to the opening posture, each chapter includes:- “Breath Breaks” invitations to mindfully breathe.
- “On the Mat” practices to show us how we can apply the lessons on our yoga mat in a more general sense.
- “Parenting in Practice” offering and advice from parents in the US and abroad.
- “Off the Mat and Into the Family” fun exercises to help us bring the work off the mat and into our homes.
Practicing yoga can help us become kinder to ourselves, more aware of our thoughts and actions, and more present in our lives. What more important sphere to want to become kinder, more aware, and more present than with our families? -
Brain-Body Parenting
NATIONAL BESTSELLER
From a leading child psychologist comes this groundbreaking new understanding of children's behavior, offering insight and strategies to support both parents and children.
Nominated for Malcolm Gladwell, Susan Cain, Adam Grant, and Daniel H. Pink's Next Big Idea Club
Over her decades as a clinical psychologist, Dr. Mona Delahooke has routinely counseled distraught parents who struggle to manage their children's challenging, sometimes oppositional behaviors. These families are understandably focused on correcting or improving a child's lack of compliance, emotional outbursts, tantrums, and other "out of control" behavior. But, as she has shared with these families, a perspective shift is needed. Behavior, no matter how challenging, is not the problem but a symptom; a clue about what is happening in a child's unique physiologic makeup.
In Brain-Body Parenting, Dr. Delahooke offers a radical new approach to parenting based on her clinical experience as well as the most recent research in neuroscience and child psychology. Instead of a "top-down" approach to behavior that focuses on the thinking brain, she calls for a "bottom-up" approach that considers the essential role of the entire nervous system, which produces children's feelings and behaviors.
When we begin to understand the biology beneath the behavior, suggests Dr. Delahooke, we give our children the resources they need to grow and thrive--and we give ourselves the gift of a happier, more connected relationship with them. Brain-Body Parenting empowers parents with tools to help their children develop self-regulation skills while also encouraging parental self-care, which is crucial for parents to have the capacity to provide the essential "co-regulation" children need. When parents shift from trying to secure compliance to supporting connection and balance in the body and mind, they unlock a deeper understanding of their child, encouraging calmer behavior, more harmonious family dynamics, and increased resilience.
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Tiny Humans, Big Emotions
The Future is Emotionally Intelligent
From two early childhood experts, an essential guidebook that empowers parents to help their little ones navigate their big feelings--including tantrums, outbursts, and separation anxiety--while laying the groundwork for a lifetime of emotional intelligence.
We're in the midst of a parenting revolution that is radically changing the way we raise our kids. Gone are the days of minimizing emotions: Don't Cry. You're Fine. Don't Make a Scene. As our understanding of developing brains has increased, today's parents are looking for a new way to help their children understand their feelings and learn to process them.
Emotional development experts Alyssa Blask Campbell, M.Ed. and Lauren Stauble M.S. are at the forefront of a movement to foster little ones' emotional intelligence. Their revolutionary Collaborative Emotion Processing (CEP) method has been a game changer for parents and educators, and now they are sharing it with readers in this indispensable guide.
Tiny Humans, Big Emotions provides the tools to tackle every sort of stressful child-rearing situation, including:
- What to do when your child throws a tantrum (it's not what you think!)
- Helpful scripts to handle any challenging moment like school refusal and bedtime resistance
- How to react when your child hits, punches, or bites
- Easy tips that help regulate your child's nervous system
- How to anticipate and end meltdowns before they even begin
Designed for all humans--tiny and big--this book shows caregivers of children how to handle their children's outbursts while empowering them to recognize and manage difficult feelings like anger, sadness, and shame, along with anxiety. All caregivers will find valuable insights and guidance in this book, especially those caring for children from infancy to age eight. Tiny Humans, Big Emotions equips adults with tools for emotional intelligence so they can respond with intention. This innovative, research-based approach teaches children self-regulation and empathy, even as it strengthens the parent-child relationship, setting the groundwork for a lifetime of emotional resilience and wellbeing.
This book is an essential, empathetic guide that will teach parents to notice their own habits and hold space for their tiny human's big emotions.
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Technology's Child
How children engage with technology at each stage of development, from toddler to twentysomething, and how they can best be supported.
What happens to the little ones, the tweens, and the teenagers, when technology—ubiquitous in the world they inhabit—becomes a critical part of their lives? This timely book Technology's Child brings much-needed clarity to what we know about technology’s role in child development. Better yet, it provides guidance on how to use what we know to help children of all ages make the most of their digital experiences.
From toddlers who are exploring their immediate environment to twentysomethings who are exploring their place in society, technology inevitably and profoundly affects their development. Drawing on her expertise in developmental science and design research, Katie Davis describes what happens when child development and technology design interact, and how this interaction is complicated by children’s individual characteristics and social and cultural contexts. Critically, she explains how a self-directed experience of technology—one initiated, sustained, and ended voluntarily—supports healthy child development, especially when it takes place within the context of community support.
Children’s experiences with technology—their “screen time” and digital social relationships—have become an inescapable aspect of growing up. This book, for the first time, identifies the qualitative distinctions between different ages and stages of this engagement, and offers invaluable guidance for parents and teachers navigating the digital landscape, and for technology designers charting the way. -
Growing Up in Public
The definitive book on helping kids navigate growing up in a world where nearly every moment of their lives can be shared and compared
NATIONAL BESTSELLER
With social media and constant connection, the boundaries of privacy are stretched thin. Growing Up in Public shows parents how to help tweens and teens navigate boundaries, identity, privacy, and reputation in their digital world.
We can track our kids’ every move with apps, see their grades within minutes of being posted, and fixate on their digital footprint, anxious that a misstep could cause them to be “canceled” or even jeopardize their admission to college. And all of this adds pressure on kids who are coming of age immersed in social media platforms that emphasize “personal brand,” “likes,” and “gotcha” moments. How can they figure out who they really are with zero privacy and constant judgment? Devorah Heitner shows us that by focusing on character, not the threat of getting caught or exposed, we can support our kids to be authentically themselves.
Drawing on her extensive work with parents and schools as well as hundreds of interviews with kids, parents, educators, clinicians, and scholars, Heitner offers strategies for parenting our kids in an always-connected world. With relatable stories and research-backed advice, Growing Up in Public empowers parents to cut through the overwhelm to connect with their kids, recognize how to support them, and help them figure out who they are when everyone is watching.
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Pumpkin Pie Play Dough
Mix up a batch of dough to play with and take it home to keep.
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Pumpkin Pie Play Dough
Mix up a batch of dough to play with and take it home.
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Preschool Stories & Songs
Drop in for storytime fun!
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Baby Start
Music, movement, and fun for your little ones!
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Play & Learn
Music, movement, and fun for your little ones!
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123 Play with Me
Join us for specially designed play and activity stations. Each week a facilitator will answer your questions on topics such as development, nutrition, and more.
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Stories & Craft
Listen to a story and then make a themed craft.
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My First Signs
This highly interactive communication centered class features gestures, spoken words, American Sign Language vocabulary, music and literature.
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Community Resources
AGAPE Long Island
AGAPE Long Island serves families in Nassau and Suffolk counties who have adopted a child or those that have become guardians of a relative’s child.
Book Fairies
Book Fairies sources and redistributes books to under-resourced communities on Long Island, NYC and internationally to provide equitable opportunities for children to learn, grow, and thrive.
Childcare Council of Suffolk County
Child Care Council of Suffolk is the leading educational resource, referral service, and advocate for quality early care and education for the children and families throughout all of Suffolk County.
60 Calvert Avenue
Commack, NY 11725
United States
Family and Children's Services
Family and Children Services oversees a variety of programs and services for at-risk children, adults, and families in Suffolk County.
Family Service League
FSL is a social service agency that provides support and security for children, families, individuals and seniors. FSL empowers our community’s most vulnerable to mobilize their strengths and improve their quality of life.
790 Park Avenue
Huntington, NY 11743
United States
Fiercely Leading Youth
Fiercely Leading Youth, Inc is a non-profit 501(c)3 dedicated to inspiring, empowering and educating at risk youth to defy the odds and become successful, productive contributors to society.